Monday, December 20, 2010

A Sign That Your Work Is Creeping Into Your Personal Life

This last weekend little bro had a Halloween for Christmas party.
I prepared for this party by walking to his house so that I could drink as much as I wanted and still get home in the evening. As normal, I turn into a responsible adult at a party and try to take care of those more smashed than I. One of these folks was my brother's roommate....who turned 21 this weekend.

And as we all know, turning 21 means that you spend that entire weekend completely inebriated.

She had a friend/boyfriend/potential boyfriend/I'mnotexactlysure there. Nice boy, quite cute. She was throwing herself on him, telling him that they should go off to her room, etc., etc. I know that at least one other guy there would have taken her up on the offer (which was creepy), but not her guy. He kept telling her no, kept saying that she was too drunk. Which she was. And after a while of watching him turn her down and still taking care of her in her drunkenness, I walked over to him to thank him.

I thanked him for recognizing that she was too drunk to consent. I thanked him for not taking advantage of her. I thanked him for being a good guy.

First of all, thanking someone at a party for not being a rapist is weird. But this has become my new reality. He was really sweet...and blushed, mumbling something about how he wouldn't want her to be with him like that anyway, and how it wouldn't be any fun.... but let's be honest, what else could he say? I made an already awkward situation a rape prevention moment. Oh well, maybe if we thanked people for not taking advantage of someone, they might step in for someone else later when they see it happening. A bystander education moment? Maybe. Several people at that party learned alot about consent that night from this conversation. So that should be considered a good thing.....or a sign that I live and breathe my work too much. What do you think?

I've been a bit busy, how about you?

Wow....absolutely no blogging this month so far. That's really sad. In my defense I have had a super busy month so far.

I was battling a sickness, while taking care of a family friend who was sicker than me. I don't recommend this at all.

In something that I haven't really talked about on here at all, I was preparing for, took, and passed my examination to the second degree in co-masonry.

Plus, I had a party to go to for Job 3 and a party that I held at my house for UCASA. Lesson learned from this is that no matter how long I take to clear off the table, leaving gravy out for any extended period of time is not a good idea. One of these days I will pay more attention to dishes rather than trying to convince myself that not washing them is part of a grand scientific experiment.

Oh, and I decided....this morning actually.... that I am not going to take my birth control pills anymore. I keep forgetting to get the prescription filled anyway. I was planning on getting at least a month's filled for emergencies....and then I realized that that was super silly because I want to get pregnant, so why would I need the pills? Mindsets are really hard to change sometimes. I've been so used to being hyper-vigilant about unintended pregnancy that being ok with that situation is sort of a mind bender.

That's about it, I think. Although I am considering doing a bunch of top ten list for the end of the 2010 (top ten moments in my life, top ten biggest bonehead moves, that sort of thing). If you have any ideas for topics, please let me know. I'm going to do a top ten most influential sexual violence stories for work, which I will definitely link to here, but I haven't decided if I will cross post it here or not.